Fake It Til You Make It!

From Jennifer Lee's blog - Works for me!
The other day I was talking to a VERY successful friend of mine. Let me clarify, she has a very successful business, strong marriage and loving family - yet, she still has "fears" that are limiting her ability to live a 100% successful and fulfilling life.

She is fearful of flying, speaking in public and making bold decisions...sound familiar?

Anyway, she told me how much she liked my "Be Bold" article from last week and has decided to not only to be BOLD this year, but to be "Barbara"...excuse me?

To help her get past her fears, she has decided to take on a pseudo name and persona. One that has no fear and goes for what she wants, no matter what.

She was recently asked to speak to hundreds of people about the success of her business - normally she would have declined, but this time she accepted, knowing that "Barbara" was going to take on the challenge.

I love it! It takes the edge off a bit and allows you the freedom to tackle a particular fear - let "Barbara" take a crack at it. Brilliant!

I'm not sure if this tactic is endorsed by the therapists out there - but I think this unorthodox way of looking at a difficult task may work for many folks - here's why.

Many of our fears have a "failure or rejection" component to them. We naturally do not want to be rejected or fail - it hurts, it tears away our value, it makes us question our abilities. If we step out and have "Barbara" take the risk and it doesn't work, it's not about us...it just didn't work. Perfecto!

Try it out...it works. Next time you are fearful about making a bold move or taking a risk - ask "Barbara" to make it for you. You'll be surprised how quickly you move forward. After all, you don't have anything to lose.

Now, Go For It!!!

Coach Jenn Lee